Going traditional in marriage is normal and historically, traditional marriages provided two primary advantages over any other relationships: safety and stability. If either of these advantages is undermined, then success of an entire society is threatened. However, this does not serve the purpose to de-campaign Holy matrimony, which by all standards is the most desirable way of sealing commitment in marriage. Other forms of marriage in Rwanda and the rest of the world include; public, legal, and religious-supported where the two parties vow to stay together for the rest of their lives. Though there are also arranged, child and homosexual marriages that are recognized else where in the world. Marriage is a good fixation. Scientific studies have proven that married people are healthier, wealthier, and happier. For example, married men even live about 10 years longer than unmarried men. And marrieds spend only half as much time sick and in the hospital as unmarrieds. And therefore the youth especially those of ‘age’ should not be restricted from officiating their marriages basing on modern sophistication and expenses that are associated with this venture today. Modernity, copycat and bandwagon have actually become a threat to marriage. Nevertheless in Rwanda, both traditional and legal marriages are very common, young men and women boldly walk to commune offices or parent’s homes and make vows to each other. This has not reduced on the pressures of financial constraints of wedding ceremonies but also reduced the rate of cohabitation. Cohabitation is a common phenomenon in the region and yet is different from marriage, with different expectations and effects on the individual parties. Therefore it should be shunned not only on social grounds but also for religious reasons. Elders in society should continue with their duty of guiding the youth into marriage procedures to avoid embarrassment as well as abominations since most the norms and cultural aspects have been discarded in the name of modernization. Marriage also gives access to a more active and satisfying sex life; increases wealth and assets; boosts children’s chances for success; and enhances men’s performance at work and their earnings. Ends
