1.Successful relationships take work. They don’t happen in a vacuum. They occur when the couples in them take the risk of sharing what it is that’s going on in their hearts and heads.2.You can only change yourself, not your partner. If you love someone and think that after a while he or she will alter behaviors you find uncomfortable, think again.3.All arguments stem from our own fear or pain. When upset occurs, check out what’s going on inside of you rather than get angry with your partner. 4.Understand that men and women are very different. Understanding and celebrating our differences will make living together more peaceful, interesting, and fun.5.Honor each other in some way every day. Every morning you have the opportunity to make your relationship sweeter and deeper by recommitting to your mate. 6.Anger is a waste of time. If you are annoyed with your mate, give yourself some time to calm down and then gently discuss what’s going on.7.Find a way to become and stay best friends. 8.Be responsible for your own happiness. No other person can make you happy. 9. Give what you want to get.