We all people get a little bit nervous in new social situations be it with new employers, new professors, in-laws, job interviewers or new roommates. It’s totally natural to be concerned about how you’re to be perceived by them and how you’re in turn going to perceive them. The first thing to remember is try not to become too nervous. Approach those people confidently, but not over-confidently. Arrogance can be intimidating and irritating. Peevishness can make them feel more nervous about you. Stand up straight and move toward them for the handshake. Smile and begin with a simple greeting. Make it a firm but cordial handshake as you introduce yourself. Body language is also very important when introducing your self to others. Depending on how formal the visit is, you will give your first name and title and then give them a chance to introduce themselves to you. Maintain eye contact, but don’t stare. Be interested in whatever they are saying and upbeat without seeming fake or ditzy. It is common for people in new environments to spend most of their time on their own and don’t associate with others for some days until they familiarise themselves with the place. Be pleasant and grateful, but not a wallflower. Engage in conversation and ask questions. Try as much as possible never to dominate the conversation but don’t sit like a lump either. Whoever is leading the conversation will likely to see you participating because keeping quiet could show them that you’re a bored or worse still boring. Always try to fall within the limits of what they are discussing as differing could signal discord. Know and think of what you say before you say it. Participating in conversation will help you find people who have something common with you such as the same age group, similar education or interests. Friendship should grow organically. Contact: eddiemukaaya@yahoo.com
