Don’t rush into marriage

It’s a dream come true for most women to walk down the aisle but one should not rush into it. My 20-year old cousin met a guy six months ago; but he proposed to her last week and he wants to marry her before the end of the year. The boy is 23-years- old and the family of the bride are trying to advise them to wait a little longer. In fact the mother’s bride requested the groom to first let her daughter complete University since she was left with two years to graduate. When I talked to my cousin I asked her if she is willing to wait but looked like she was adamant about the issue since he was the person she has first dated or got intimate with. When I asked her five things that make her think he is the one man she would want to spend the rest of her life with, I discovered they were all physical reasons. For example she said that he is handsome, intelligent, he gives her everything she wants and takes her out. That was when I asked her how he reacts when he is stressed and she told she has never seen him angry. I just felt pity for her! She does even know what it feels or what one does when they are heart broken. I don’t why but I somehow support the common English saying ‘One has to kiss a thousand frogs before they meet the prince.’ Some studies show that young women who get married in their late twenties don’t easily get divorced when compared to the ones who get married in their early twenties. Apparently those in their late twenties or early thirties have explored and by the time they get married they are mature enough to understand their partners. According to Dr. Jeff Gardere, Psychologist and contributor to Healthguru.com, studies show that people who marry at the age of 19 and under, have a much higher chance of getting divorced, within a couple of years. He recommended if a couple is young, they need to stay engaged for four or five years and get married in their mid 20s. He further states that after some time they should see if their relationship is still holding togetherIt’s magnificent to be young and in love, but problems come in when the young couple are learning on the ‘job’ how to deal with a crisisMy dear sisters, give yourselves enough time to learn one another instead of rushing into marriage. First make sure that as a couple you have the same values, life goals and lots of the same interests, before you walk the aisle.