Can the whole truth be told in a relationship..?

For the sake of being trusted, couples try as much as possible to be transparent. However, the unanswered question remains if partners can ever be fully open and tell the whole truth in their affairs. It is a fact that any one would feel fortunate to have a faithful partner; although some couples survive or avoid breaking up by enduring each other`s mistakes or weaknesses. “We decided to part ways because there were many things that we could not agree on – and these could often create misunderstandings. Besides, I think we had rushed into this relationship before we could study each other,” said Safi Niyibikora.Niyibikora was referring to his recent break up with aspiring R&B star Knowles, having been in a relationship for the last three years.He added that he had learnt from his previous mistakes and that he does not even think of dating in the near future. Although there might be some hidden reasons for a couple to part, Alex Mugabo, a businessman in Nyabugogo says there is always a possibility of settling such cases so as to stay in a relationship.“Before you come up with such a decision, it is equally important that you think twice considering what the break up might cause,” Mugabo said.He pointed out that if one loves the other, they should always be in position to forgive each other.“I don’t intend to defend wrong actions or say couples can never break up but I believe that for the good of the couple in a relationship, there should always be dialogue through which challenges can easily be solved,” he said.He noted that just like in marriage, couples also face challenges and that if not handled carefully, there can be a break up. Just like any other person with a totally different view from Mugabo, Sarah Mugwaneza believes there are issues that are so hard to solve.“If I realize that my partner does not change or is making same mistakes over and again, trust me, such a relationship can never work out,” she said.“There are people who can not change or even realize and apologize for their mistakes. With such people, it is so challenging to have an affair with them,” she said.She added that there are men who easily believe in rumors adding that such men are more dangerous compared to women in the same category.“Sometimes, men take women for granted just like any other woman may take a man for granted, forgetting that each one of them can decide to quit a relationship.” she said.She added that, “a decision to quit a relationship is painful, but is the last step one must take when other means fail.” Although Mugabo’s decision is influenced by consideration of the future, Mugwaneza reflects on the past and believes the future is not right.