Relationships:Develop a healthy relationship with your partner

Building a healthy relationship is one thing that can make a stronger and everlasting relationship, which everyone dreams about in life. It may seem so difficult, but just a few things to try out and you will achieve it as a couple.One thing to help build a healthy relationship is always to try and use communication to establish a common ground to understand different points of views, and to create a mutual and collaborative agreement and plan as a couple. Many people argue to be right, but this is not healthy for relationships. You can choose to be right or to have a successful relationship, but you cannot have them both. Learn from your experiences and share them with your partner. If you do not reach a mutual understanding, it doesn’t mean you are both wrong.“Always make and keep clear agreements,” says Susan Kayitesi, a married woman with two kids from Gikondo. Do not expect your partner to agree with you on every issue.“Try always to reach a mutual understanding and plan and always be committed to that, “adds Kayitesi. If you have an appointment with your partner say for a lunch out, try and keep time or call if you can not make it on time, it shows some good respect for your partner, and responsibility on another side,” says Kayitesi. Agreement is a sign of respect to each other, and also helps develop trust and safety which are very important in a relationship. Winifred Kayesu a business woman in Kicukiro says that it is always good to be happy in a relationship. “Remember that the only person that is responsible for your happiness is you. Your life is solely under your control, and with your relationship you always have to take the bad and the good the same way. Always ask yourself why you are not happy and do not blame anyone for your sadness,” adds Kayesu.Always approach your relationship as a learning experience. Just know that each one of you has important information for each other to learn and both of you need to contribute to each other, so that everything works out in favor for the two of you.“I always see forgiveness to one another as a very important issue to developing a healthy and lasting relationship, “says Michael Gatera , a married man, resident in Kabeza. “I see no need of keeping the past, but if you decide to look at the present and the future, then things will go well in your relationship, and focus on the present and sometimes one may need some space alone, so it is good to give it to your partner if they ask for it,” adds GateraLearn to appreciate yourself and your partner. This is best done in a stress free situation, which gets you sensitively aware, so you do not have to be sugar coating anything when you are under stress or any argument with your partner. Tell your partner that you do not want to argue but to talk and make things better.“Be truthful to your partner and to yourself if you want true love. Remember a lie creates misunderstandings between you and your partner in a relationship, even if your partner never gets to know about the lie,” says Jeanne Mbabazi a hairdresser in Kacyiru.Spending some quality time with your partner can also help build a healthy relationship. There is always an excitement when you do things together as a couple. Share your precious time, eat, and laugh. Laughing keeps a passionate feeling in perspective and remember it’s hard to communicate when in a tedious relationship or even show humorous feelings to each other in such a situation.Develop a realistic expectation about sex and intimacy. Create new ways of pleasing each other intimately. Arrange some good time and day from the stressful daily hassles of life to enjoy each other and always support each other in all ways, because this helps each one of you know that you have a friend in each other.