Relationships:5 Tips for Dating a Single Mom

There is nothing that makes a group of men, or any individual man, cringe faster than the notion of dating a single mom. A consensus for today’s single man is that single mom = baggage, and most men will shy away from it. On the other hand, for this reason, many men also view the single mom as a great opportunity for a fling. Today’s family has changed. It is 2008 and the United States Census indicates that America is home to over 11 million single parents. The chances that you as a single man will find yourself dating one then, are pretty good. This is the age of the blended family, and for every family, that carries a different meaning.TIP: When dating a single mom, asking the right questions and understanding each other’s expectations can make a huge difference. We recommend ‘Tell me Honey...2000 Questions for Couples’ from Amazon.com, also available as an instant download ebook.If you find that you are interested in, attracted to, or seriously wanting to build a relationship with a single mom, there are some things you should know. You can’t play the game the way you normally do. Dating a single mom doesn’t have to be like walking on eggshells, but in some cases, dating a single mom just isn’t the same thing as dating a single girl with no responsibilities. The good news? Dating a single mom offers a wide range of benefits. Here are some tips to help you get the most out of dating a single mom, or even to simply encourage you to give it a shot.1. You can’t be a player anymore. This step is more for your protection than anything else. You certainly can be a player if that is all you are looking for, but unless you know for sure that the single mom you are wooing wants the same thing, this could seriously backfire on you. There are single moms out there actively seeking a ring on their finger, and if you play games with the wrong one, you will find yourself in a mess that you’d rather not be in.2. Don’t be fakeDon’t pretend to like her or pretend you are interested, just so that you can have a fling. You never know, her game plan may be just the same as yours, even if that fling is all you are looking for. Be genuine and sincere, hint, be yourself, and she will welcome the opportunity to spend some time with you. A man who is sincere and shows genuine interest with no ulterior motive is any girls’ dreams whether she is a single mom or not.3. Don’t be fake, part twoYou can’t just be genuine with her; you have to be genuine with her children. If it does get to the point where you meet the kids, be yourself once again. Kids are almost smarter than single parents and will know when someone is being fake with them. Be nice to them, and show genuine interest in them. It won’t be long before they start reciprocating.4. Romance Her! You don’t need to be a single mom to appreciate a little bit of romance, but the single mom will definitely appreciate the romantic attention you provide. Use your imagination here and be creative. Romance works best when it is unexpected and not obvious. That doesn’t mean some flowers won’t go a long way. But send her a sweet text or an email to let her know you are thinking of her, or even just check in to see how the little one’s doctor appointment went. Small attention to details will sweep her off her feet more than grandiose gestures will.5. Be FlexibleFlexibility is key when dating a single mom because she is always juggling a lot at once and has none to share her responsibilities with. She may be sure one day that she can make plans with you, but have to cancel at the last minute if a doctor’s appointment comes up, visitation with dad changes at the last minute, or any number of factors that could cancel a date in a heartbeat. She may not be able to plan too much ahead of time either. Or maybe she can and maybe that’s easiest for her. Every situation with every single mom is different, but being flexible will make both of your lives a little easier. You may find you have to meet midweek for lunch instead of Saturday night for dinner, or head to a matinee on the weekend instead of an evening show. Her priorities may be a little bit different, but that doesn’t mean she’s not looking to go out and have fun. Just be willing to be flexible.futurescopes.com