Aunt’s corner

I met my wife through her younger sister who was a very good friend of mine. I flirted briefly with my sister-in law before her wedding (and before ours) but the flame remained there through all these years and has in the past two years grown. My sister-in-law warned me before that her sister was hard to deal with, and I have found myself talking and dealing with her most of the time. While I haven’t cheated on my wife, there is a suggestion that I take my kids over to my sister-in-law’s place for Christmas as my wife is working during that time. My sister-in-law has started to send me some flirtatious texts and I am scared that this time anything can happen. I don’t want to go to her place but find it really hard to explain to my wife and brother-in-law who is also away abroad on a work mission.Eric Dear Eric, First and foremost it is a no go zone when it comes to your in-laws. It does not matter whether you met your wife through her sister who was your friend first. The fact that you chose to marry her sister is evident enough of what you think of your sister in law as a woman. You must stop her flirting with you. I am sure you love your wife and you do not want your marriage to end in divorce, despite the fact that you were warned about your wife and you went ahead and married her. By the way what is this thing called difficult person to deal with? Honestly, I don’t see as to how a person can be so difficult to an extent that they cannot even agree with one person in this world? Whether your wife is a difficult person to deal with or not does not give you a sure ticket to infidelity.My honest opinion is that you should deal with your sister-in-law at an arm’s length. And when you are doing it, please, do not beat around the bush-call a spade a spade- because a good sister is not the one who wants to destroy her sister’s marriage. Once you are done with that, you can come up with a good excuse as to why you and your children cannot go to her house for Christmas. Who said it is a written rule that you have to spend your Christmas day with your in-laws? If you have no brothers and sisters or anybody else who is willing to invite you over to their place to celebrate with them, then I suggest looking no further- go to a beautiful place where you can go and enjoy together with your children and make the best out of this time. After all when a person is married, his wife and children are what matter; these are your family-anybody else after them ceases to be a family and instead becomes a relative. Therefore do not let these relatives dictate how and where you should spend your Christmas day. Go to church with your children and give God thanks, later on you can go for a Christmas outing. If you want a quiet Christmas day, you can order turkey from a hotel, after the meal you can sit with your children and watch some family Christmas movie or comedy-like Home Alone. Try and be creative and do something out of the norm with your children for Christmas. Forget this sister-in-law of yours; she is just a trouble maker. Merry Christmas!