Insight: Partners who ask for less, deserve much!

A popular phrase states, ‘Girls who do not ask much deserve a lot.’ I believe this is true however, as I pondered on it, I questioned the gender dynamics that surround the phrase. Why should one think of girls only? Today there are young men who think a girl should be a provider and so is the opposite true. I do not know if the whole women emancipation mantra is influencing and creating different ideas in people’s minds about provision. When it comes to relationships, everything done should be out of mutual understanding and respect. My neighbour, Maureen’s spouse thinks she makes more money than he does. This makes him demand for anything he needs from her. At times, she is not okay with his attitude because he also has a job and earns a salary, but she has no option but spend because she loves him. There is no reason whatsoever for any partner to ask more than their partner can afford. Besides where there is love, there should be a common understanding when it comes to finances. Therefore, a relationship should be built on mutual understanding and not on conditions tied to money. This ceases to be true love since one partner thinks they should depend on the other for survival. No one surely would like to be a host to a parasite—I mean, in the relationship realm. There is no need to treat a spouse as a parent providing for children. It is so wrong to get into a relationship and make financial demands of a partner. It is unfair to the meaning of true love. Love is a beautiful feeling that should never be tarnished by materialism. Build first the strong solid foundation of a relationship on love and the rest shall follow in line. After all, true love knows no wealth. Partners should remember that they should never be relationship burdens to each other. With this in mind, love will flourish. jacqueuwera@yahoo.com