Relationships:The 5 Love Languages

If there is one thing that is not easy to understand, I think this ‘love thing’ confuses even those that think they are exceedingly wiser than King Solomon was. Love has a language. Love’s language is not taught before a blackboard, or let us say, before a desktop, not even Google can give you the true language of love. The Love languages have to be experienced and practiced in order to be understood and mastered. My role in church has allowed me to attend numerous wedding services even when I do not personally know the couple getting married. Therefore, I have learned a lot from these wedding services. The preacher, before proceeding with the matrimonial vows, always feeds the bride and groom with words of wisdom to help them through their new life together until death or the coming of Jesus Christ does them apart. As a result, I always listen to the five love languages, which he repeats in every wedding service. I cannot help but share with you what I have fully mastered by default: 1.Quality Time: Couples need quality time for each other, get time off your busy schedule, put away those newspapers, switch off the TV and computer, she needs your attention. This gives partners time to learn more about each other after all every new day, there is something new to learn about each other. 2.Physical touch: Touching each other affectionately speaks volumes—it bonds spouses. Feeling and caressing each other is not a sin, the two have become one. This touch also sends signals of love; it is one of the love languages that should not be ignored. 3.Words of affirmation: It would be a lie if one said they never want to be praised and appreciated. Human beings like to be praised. Words like; thank you, you are beautiful, I like you hair, you are smart, are examples of affirmative words. These are short phrases but they might build you a home. Spouses should say those things that are sweet to the ears. This gives satisfaction to a partner knowing there is someone who truly appreciates him or her. 4.Acts of service: Imagine he said to you, ‘Sweetheart, I cleaned your shoes. ‘What a happy day that will be! The vice versa is true. Doing something least expected of a partner creates the feeling that one can go an extra mile for another. How would he feel if he found you dusting the car? Acts of service is a love language that couples should not ignore. 5.Exchange of gifts: What happened to those roses, perfumes, boxers and other gifts that you exchanged during the initial stages of your relationship? Even though couples grow old in their marriages, exchanging gifts should not stop; love never changes its language with time. Give him or her something, it could be small but the message it carries can never be eroded away. Gifts should not only be received on birthdays, anniversaries or when something goes wrong. Any time is a time to exchange gifts, love does not only stop when the wedding gown and suit are removed but rather till death or Jesus Christ comes! The five love languages should be spoken as soon as this journey of love commences. Through the thick mist and fog, mountains and valleys, the love language should never be forgotten and victory will surely be for those who stand firm and love unconditionally at all times. jacqueuwera@yahoo.com