Feature:Is he worth fighting for?

At some point in life, one person will make a girl believe they are the best thing that ever happened to them. The frequent phone calls, lunch and dinner dates, lingerie gifts with your best colour and every minute lovey-dovey text messages convince her that he is the one. Well, men seem to have mastered the art of impression quite perfectly. Some have the ability to sweep any woman off their feet if they choose to. There are those inevitable dilemmas that every relationship is bound to have however; if a guy starts acting like you’re the one supposed to fight for his care and attention, then there is a big problem. Whatever the case, no woman should stoop so low to fight for a man—never (just for emphasis).Once your partners starts seeing another girl, be courteous enough and talk about it with him. If he admits about the other girl he is seeing, apologises and shows signs of dropping the other girl, you may give him another chance. However, if he persists and continues with his flirting habit and cheating, then you are better off single than staying in a sad relationship. Women should never settle for less. Never believe in the pathetic myth that a man is not meant for only one woman, says who? It is a sad and solace saying for women who have accepted to share their man with all the other girls. Well, if you are the kind of girl that is comfortable with sharing your man, then I guess, no one can stop you. This whole thing of fighting for a man is not worth any girl’s time especially if you are still in the dating game. If he has the audacity to flirt around with other girls and cheat on you while you are just dating, chances are it will only get worse during marriage. He might do it in your face and your very own house. Save yourself that heartache and pain that you might live with for the rest of your life. Fighting for a man who is holding onto another girl is a waste of time. The best thing to do is move on and, as difficult as it may be, it is worthwhile. Often times after moving on, you will certainly regret and feel like it was probably a wrong decision. You might have sleepless and tearful nights but with time, you heal and realize that it was the best decision. Sometimes women feel that settling into a damned relationship is the solution to their loneliness; however, it only leads to more emptiness. If you are in this kind of relationship where you are fighting over your man with another woman, think twice before holding onto that fight. If you want to move on, do it however hard it will be and know that time heals wounded hearts. Never settle for less just because you think you are racing against age or, whatever reasons you may have. m.kaitesi@yahoo.com