Roses: A man’s perfect apology

Diamonds may be a girl’s best friend but roses know how to get the job done just as well. There is no woman who can tell me that when presented with a bouquet of the most beautiful roses, all prior anger towards the giver doesn’t vanish in thin air. That is why men are catching up with the whole ‘give her flowers when she’s mad’ thing. Now it has to be emphasized that roses, regardless of the colour (though you can never go wrong with red), are the ones being talked about here. This is Africa; roses are practically the one flower species everyone must know. They are the most popular and therefore likely to be the most loved. Don’t just rush to some florist and buy the cheapest things you can find, it really isn’t romantic because I can assure you that she will tell just how cheap the flowers were. If flowers are a luxury (seriously, one rose is Rwf100) you cannot afford, then drop the whole idea and stick to the usual lame verbal apologies that usually go hand in hand with slaps to your face. Flowers are for men who understand how to treat a woman. When couples have fight, the women are usually left home sulking, but…but! one look at the delivery boy with the biggest bouquet of roses is enough for her anger to evaporate without a trace. Sure some women claim that the problem is too big for even roses to fix but, that should only be the case if he killed someone! And if that was it then all that is needed is a quick call to the nearest police station. The problem is, women fight over the smallest things and blow everything way out of proportion. Something that could be solved in about five seconds takes two weeks on the table. Try a bouquet of her favorite flowers and a box of chocolate and she might just let you sleep on the couch as opposed to bunking—let’s say, in the dog’s kennel! It is the thought that counts; that’s what makes roses the perfect apology. Men do not have the time or the desire for that matter, to think about such things so when they do, the least we can do is acknowledge and appreciate the effort. Besides aren’t ‘thorn less’ roses better than ‘a sorry’ so soft that can barely be heard? Men are not good with verbal apologies and on most occasions choose to go on with life as if nothing had happened. Sensitivity is not a strong point for several men; so, be really happy if a guy can make that effort to buy you flowers and sign a card with all the sincerity of an apology. rachelgaruka@yahoo.co.uk