Insight:Love drives sane women crazy

Falling in love has the ability to push rather sane and composed women to do crazy things. For example; Google Earth his house, mentally decorate a future home even after a few dates or, feel insanely jealous when he talks to a female friend. The verdict for women in this state is that, love is driving them crazy. There is a reason it is called falling in love because it comes so quickly and knocks many off their feet. Most women find themselves acting a bit aberrantly cuckoo after they fall hard for a guy and the saddest part is that it is out of their control. Hypnotizing even. When a woman is head over heels in love, it is only natural that they crave constant contact with the man who has captured their hearts. When they are physically apart, she tends to become a stalker. She peppers him with texts, calls repeatedly and even checks his Facebook profile every five minutes. These women know this is over the top but, cannot help it. They also tend to rush into things. They feel such a strong connection with a new guy that they hit the relationship Fast Forward button. For example, even though a woman knows that she is not actually in love after dating for a week, she cannot help but use the ‘L’ word. They suddenly become aware of others who have moved in with their man spectacularly quickly. Big deal, she says. Virtually every week, a new celebrity duo gets engaged faster than they drive their Ferrari’s around Los Angeles. Again it is those feel good brain chemicals that compel women to accelerate things. In other words, they want to cement what, in their mind, could be the most important relationship of a lifetime. Therefore, diving headfirst into commitment is one way to find assurance but also lose the ability to reason. Research has shown that people who are in love experience decreased activity in the prefrontal cortex — the part of the brain associated with decision making. So exchanging I-love-yous or taking things to the next level nails down his intentions and eases the mind. Having an extremely impatient personality can compel a love struck woman to pump the gas on her relationship so much that she finds herself discussing potential baby names without even knowing if the guy wants kids in the first place—a super turn-off for him. The word ‘baby’ is enough to leave even the bravest of men scared witless. However, not even that can stop a woman madly in love from pointing out what she thinks are the cutest baby names of the decade. Jealousy takes a grip to the point where no one can be trusted, from the maid who cleans his apartment to the stray dog he wants to adopt. A sanely delusional woman in love will always imagine her man flirting with other women when he is out with his buddies, even though he has never given reason not to be trusted. When a woman slips an arm around a guy’s waist every time he talks to another woman at a party, in a bid to convey their couple status, is one thing, but accidentally—on purpose—spilling a drink on her is another. She can never gain any points for a cheap move like that. Women with an attitude like this, need to create some space to breathe. As hard as it may be, in the end, it will be totally worth it. They need to cut back on time spent with a lover. This helps when it comes to catching breath, gaining perspective and some well needed self-control. rachelgaruka@yahoo.co.uk