Relationships: Don’t be a nagging wife!

No one especially a man can stand a woman who is irritating and consumed with quarrels about everything and nothing. A nagging person has no capacity to listen. Walking into a home with all the stress from work, one expects to find his or her partner in a welcoming mood. No one wants to answer questions like, ‘what took you so long?’ or, ‘are you cheating on me?’ At times it is those days when a woman gets angry at slight issues, for some it’s their PMS (Pre Menstrual Syndrome). Either way that should not be an excuse to act in an uncomely manner toward other people. Outbursts and verbal abuse affect a partner or spouse’s concentration at work and life in general. They always reflect on the insults and angry faces they encountered back home that torment them. In some cases it even goes as far as suffering from inferiority complex. If you are so pissed off, try to maintain your composure and resolve the problem with a cool head. Proverbs 21:9 states, “Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.” Therefore women, try to control your anger before your husband ducks to the corner of your roof to hide. During an interview Rose Ngabo, an artist, said: “I have been married to my husband for six-years. When a problem arises, we sit and discuss it. After talking about it, we both feel good.” She and her husband have been blessed with a son. “It’s always important to talk about the issues bothering you and solve them than keeping quiet and let it drag on. Communication is a key factor in every relationship,” Ngabo expresses. She adds that asking for forgiveness does the trick. “When you wrong someone even if it’s not your spouse, always say you are sorry. It doesn’t matter how many times you say it but mean it,” Ngabo said. Tips anger management: 1.Put yourself in your spouse’s shoes. How would you handle it if someone nags you all the time you open that door while coming from a hectic day at work? 2.Be calm when requesting someone to stop irritating other than shouting at them. This controls your anger outbursts. 3.Take responsibility for your feelings and avoid blaming others. As time passes, you will be able to be more objective about the issues and to sort out the truth about the situation more clearly. 4.Make a decision to speak with modesty whenever you are angry or frustrated. Dorau20@yahoo.co.uk