Dating a friend’s ex-partner

This issue has broken up so many friendships that I have even lost count. Nobody wants to see their ex dating a friend of theirs. Why anyone would even want to date someone their friend has been with is beyond me. Really people, out of all the individuals the world has to offer, how do you end up with your friend’s ex? Sure you’ve been day dreaming about them forever and nothing would please you more than having them by your side. The only way you can actually go through with it is if your friend doesn’t mean that much to you. Boyfriends come and go, girlfriends come and go but friends are forever. Never take a good friend for granted because good friends are so hard to come by. Even if you do continue with the relationship and it turns to be everything you hoped it would be, your friend, much as they won’t admit it will always resent you for that. Yes, good friends want to see you happy at all costs but not if it is going to leave them miserable for the rest of their lives. But then again, it has turned out that some may not care if a friend is dating their ex and that is only because they know what the person is like and they probably never really loved or cared about each other to begin with. So if a friend is courteous enough to warn you about what you are getting yourself into do not look at it as sour grapping. Sure, sometimes it is but that only proves how much your friend doesn’t want to see you with their ex. Do you have any idea how uncomfortable it is to show up somewhere with your friends ex on your arm only to find your friend? The conversation becomes literally nonexistent even though you always had a lot to say. They will forever wonder what makes it work for you where it failed for them. When things hit the fan, as they most likely will, they’d like to tell you they told you so but then again good friends don’t do that. You instead cry on their shoulder and talk about what went wrong which again is very uncomfortable. I think we should all just steer clear of everything and anything that could break up what was probably the best friendship we ever had. It’s not worth it. It is what I call an unnecessary risk. Friends are way too valuable; nothing of that nature should ever come between that. rachelgaruka@yahoo.co.uk