When ‘the Bottle’ becomes your Replacement .

One famous musician put it brilliantly well in one of her songs, “I could have another you in a minute so don’t think your irreplaceable.” In other words, he shouldn’t take her for granted lest she replaces him with another lover. But what if he instead replaces you? Worse still, with alcohol and not a fellow human being who you can at least confront and let them know how you feel. This can be trauma at its worst for a couple but it can be dealt with. Lately, so many husbands are almost inseparable with alcohol and the bars. This has made women feel like the intoxicant has replaced them. Especially if it becomes an obsession for their men. Some women may opt for another relationship or call off the marriage and stay single. However, there is no guarantee that the replacement won’t turn into an alcoholic too. The habitual drunkard husband was probably once a responsible and sober man. What are some of the causes? There are causes as to why he decided to be loyal to the alcohol and not you. Surprisingly; you could be part of the reasons he is devoted to ‘the bottle’. Nagging women who quarrel over nothing and everything are a driving force to a man’s drinking problem. Most men can’t stand women who make noise over every nitty gritty detail. If they are sharing a house with one {nagging woman), then the chances of avoiding her are few. Hitting the bar and having rounds of alcohol becomes the suitable option just so they can find Miss. nagging asleep. Before you know it, the ‘booze’ will have taken your place.Poor communication, bad company, low self esteem, marital and domestic problems are among the many causes men resort to alcohol hence giving less affection and attention to their women. Find the causeInstead of sulking and grumbling every time he comes back home drunk, find out why he is doing it a lot lately and think of a way to fix it. Nagging him every time he comes back home staggering drunk will just add to the problem because you can’t solve a problem with a problem. Sometimes women give up so fast yet the solution is in the palm of their hands. Of course it might take time but that is what marriage is about...patience! Communication has proven to be a great tool in solving this problem. Talk it over with him without sounding like a damaged tape and be supportive of him just like your vows said you would. Through thick and thin remember? Helping him out of it and restoring your position is a gradual process that will prove to be hard but so worth it when the results come out every bit you hoped they would. It takes patience, determination and love so strong and unconditional. You just can’t let a mere bottle replace you. Claim your rightful position in his life back. However, fight the habit and not him. m.kaitesi@yahoo.com