Relationships: Building relationships is gradual

One day you move into a bar, restaurant, night club or even church and on your way in you come face to face with this strikingly beautiful girl. She certainly arouses your optical appetite, you stir and even saliva levels heighten in your mouth as you struggle to contain the fluid by swallowing hard. You begin to think, “Gosh! God must have spent extra time on that girl!” Just hold it before you go off building castles in the air and drafting steps to getting her. When faced with such a scenario, it’s of utter importance that you put these into consideration. Speed governorsYou certainly need to reduce your speed and move at a comparative rate in order to avoid life’s accidents. As much as she looks like an angel who has fallen from heaven just for you, take the time to know who she is. She could be so perfect at the outside, but get to know the real her: how does she socialize with people, who are her friends, any anger tantrums et cetera?Remember, when you rush, you crush. Go slow before you suffer the shock of having a night dancer for a wife. First things firstDo you really make any loss by adding to your list of friends this beautiful girl—I certainly don’t think so. Make her your friend and take time to know her; who and what she does, go beyond just knowing her name, know her hobbies and where she comes from. Do not interrogate her otherwise you can just as well join the Police Investigative department for that. Keep it in mind that you are the one who is after her and it’s your reputation and ego on the line. Build a gradual friendship day by day, if you want to know something new about her. Then the rest will fall in place. Reveal your intentionsWith a good foundation laid, you can now begin to think of pouring out your initial intentions. Don’t be shy for you have laid a platform and your cause will not be ignored. Pour out your heart and tell her about your fatal attraction the first time you saw her. She will listen to you and consider your sayings. If nothing made sense to her, give her time. Never demand for a quick response even when you badly need one. Be aware of a girl you tell your intentions and a quick yes is given when you are hardly friends, unless of course you have a mutual understanding of playing those dangerous hit and run games. In this case you must prepare for a crash landing, or even death. These words of wisdom apply to both genders basing on the well established belief and fact that it is a constant that males make the first move. jacqueuwera@yahoo.com