Happiness! That is everybody’s ultimate desire in a relationship. What guarantees happiness in a relationship is not the size of your partner, character, tribe and certainly not age. If that appears as a shocker to you, follow me as we try to examine the facts about age and relationships. Young men have gone out in search of maidens who are a little younger than them, hoping that bodies with cute figures will give them satisfaction and happiness. As soon as they start dating, girls grows fat, boys lose interest in them and then, they break up. Young girls on the other hand have forsaken their age mates and have hunted for men who are miles older than them, hoping for the same thing—happiness. The results have been frustrating. As soon as they hookup with the old fella, they realize he isn’t as fun as they hoped, leading to yet another breakup. What this teaches us is that; elevating age as the number one prime factor in the search for soul mates will only frustrate us in the end. What we should rather be looking for is, Love! True love will surely give you happiness, satisfaction and everything else you have ever dreamed of in a relationship. Most women will admit that they want a strong, loving and confident man who can provide for them. Back in the day, this meant that a young man was capable satisfying his wife and feeding his family. However, as time evolves, people now realize that marriage is not just about materialism. Food on the table and guards at the gate will not give any single woman peace while they harbor an abusive husband. The only way you can find true love is by widening your scope; don’t limit your dream partner to this or that age bracket, just look out carefully for someone whom you share a perfect emotion with. Of course it’s not simple, keeping in mind that the whole world might go against the idea of you marrying someone centuries older or younger. But don’t worry about that, stay focused and know what you want. What you are looking for is not happiness for the whole village, but yours and your partners. So, as long as you are of legal marriage age, don’t mind the village rumors.It is better to be stuck in a rumor mongering village with the love of your life than with a perfectly aged mate who keeps nagging you. It is a known fact that women are attracted to older men, while men are attracted to younger women; so on the outside, it seems as though the natural order already sorted itself out. What I would advice you to do however is, differentiate between attraction and love; you can be attracted to whomsoever you want. But when the time comes for you to settle down, fall in love with someone, and do not be upset because of your age difference. mugishaivan@yahoo.com
