Is cooking for him romantic or slavery?

“Gratify his stomach and he will be yours forever.” Where as good cooking crowned the list that made ancient marriages survive, for so long, the 21 century woman has a different idea. “Cooking for my husband each day reduces me to his slave. Besides, what’s the house help’s duty,” Says Martha Gakuba, a businesswoman. The cooking dilemma Contrary to the past, where our mothers’ chore job was to take care of house work and satisfy their man’s appetite, the 21st century woman has a lot to take care of.Women are in entrepreneurship, governance, media, name it. In fact some women earn more and have heavy work load than their husband. To a career woman, cooking is definitely out of the errands they intend to run, even after reading this article. The 21st century thinking is to be blamed. ‘Why cook alone yet we share the other responsibilities?” Many ladies would cook if it was done in turns, between them and their men…., though that’s next to impossible. And there comes the house help issue. Today, house helps are hired to fulfill cooking responsibilities, that’s why the first question during interviews is often, “How good are you, at cooking?” Men’s take on cooking One would wonder why women should cook at home, yet men are the best hired chefs. Well, a man would give a million dollars a day, for one home-cooked meal, by his wife. After an interview with seven married men, only one doesn’t mind if his woman does or doesn’t cook for him. In fact, good-cooking is one of the qualities that any man would want in a woman. In men’s world, cooking is part of the romance. A dinner prepared by his girlfriend/wife is incomparable to dinning in the most expensive hotel. “It’s not just the food, the time she spends preparing and thinking of the best meal means a lot,” says one married man. The sweet aroma food made by his wife surely means the world, and when it lacks, that’s when events like ‘husband caught red-handed with house-girl start unveiling.’ It is true that many women who have it all, have lost husbands to worthless ones, cooking does the magic. A good in the kitchen woman is the pride of her husband, especially when in-laws visit. He will talk about her frying, baking and boiling skills, in a nutshell, a cooking wife matters…… Does he come home late or the bar is his second wife? Is he getting closer to the house-maid? Are your fights a routine lately? Just spare a few hours to make him that memorable meal……Put family first and others will follow. lillianean@yahoo.com