Why “I do” for the money?

Some will say “I do”, for a great marriage they want to have, others for the kids they want to bare or maybe they have been together since high school, university and they think they trust each other enough to say “I do”. However, others will say so for the money; “He has a nice car, a beautiful house; he’s got a great job…why can’t I say ‘I do?’” they say. Lately, the target for wealth in marriages is on the rise. You realize marriage is not a union of two people based on true love anymore but rather it is more like a business. Often, you will watch these experiences in movies and assume they are unreal, but they are beyond doubt existent. However, at the end of the day, the big question is; why “I do” for the money? Poverty-ridden background If someone is from a family where money was in short supply and finds a spouse who is financially stable, definitely marrying a rich man is one option of running away from poverty. On the other hand, such marriages with money reaping intentions never survive. Extravagance will be born; the couple will not take it anymore, quarrels will become a daily bread and the marriage will fall to pieces because it was based on materialism. Parental pressures Parents usually have an influential hand in marriages especially on the bride’s side where parents influence them to go ahead and marry a rich man. It’s common with poor families where the parents want to have a piece of the wealth. Dowry will come their way if the daughter gets married; therefore the daughter must say “I do” courtesy of the money. It happens with the rich too; in situations where a bride’s family is rich, women are forced to marry into a rich family in order to continue the legacy of wealth. Peer pressure “I have to marry a rich man just like my friend Allen,” and, “How will my friends look at me with such a poor guy?” most young women say. The peer pressure pushing this young lady to marry a rich man comes from setting her expectations to those of her friend. If this young lady met a millionaire and never falls in love and the man proposes, she is most likely going to say I do. rutarindwabob@yahoo.co.uk