Love Is Warfare

Out of all the things in the world, a woman has the most at stake in the battle of love: Her time, her reproductive resources, her life and her happiness. A woman can be the most successful CEO, but if her love life is a mess, she will always be disappointed. The love fare is the one battle a woman cannot afford to lose. In ancient times, when a woman lost her man to another female, she would be damned because women needed a strong hunter to provide food and resources to survive. Things are not as deadly serious in the modern world. If one wants to completely succeed and “make it” in today’s world, their love life needs to be handled very well. Understanding how to get a competitive advantage in the battle of love is not about playing games, tricking men, or misleading anyone. It is about winning for one’s own sake, their own happiness and their own quality of life. It is about refusing to be the sad woman who, at the end of the day, says that she was unlucky in love. There are no unlucky women in love, only lazy women who refuse to spend the time learning what really works. Rebecca Irumva a 26-year-old student at Kigali Lay Adventist University said humour is the secret to a man’s heart. “To win a man’s heart, one has to be understanding and kind. Men think they are always funny so having a sense of humor is something that will help on the woman’s part,” said Irumva. All men love women who show they are independent and strong. Sure, men like to be taken care off. But only when they need it. Most men hate it when a woman is around them all the time. So give a man some space. Enough space will bring him closer to you. A lot of women get into a relationship with good intentions. Unfortunately after a while, the relationship starts falling apart due to various reasons—but most of all what will keep a man around is if a woman can make him believe that he cannot spand a day without her. A man’s heart should hurt, and his life should be empty without you. Bear in mind always that love is warfare and not a hide and seek game. iruikmo@yahoo.com