TRUE MAN : Dating Daddy’s Girl

For starters, I blame you for falling for her. Like mummy’s boy’s, there is something not very right with a daddy’s girl and you should have noticed this before you started dating her. See, unlike what some people think a daddy’s girl is not the over-ambitious, over-achieving type. A daddy’s girl is a girl who has just refused to grow up, and still thinks her dad is the only man in her life. When something happens that does not fall within her very clearly demarcated boundaries of agreement, she will surely run off to dad. And dad will not disappoint her, he will not tell her to go back to her man and sort her problems out. How can he do that, how can he be reasonable when he is to blame in the first place for making her like that? Sure, if I had a daughter, I would be very attached to her, very protective and.... But hey, every single second, she is growing up, and you have to let her loose, and let her be the woman she is destined to be. Keeping her under your stunting wing isn’t really doing much good for her. Ask this of the guy who is going to date her, probably with intentions of marrying her, some ten years later. He will never be the man her father is, in her eyes, and consequently, this will undermine his authority and his ego as a man. It’s easy to think that a daddy’s girl case is not as bad as a mummy’s boy case. Trust me, they are equally terrible. Here you are, a young man, trying to make your mark in the world, and you are being compared to a guy who has existed for over two generations! When you are trying to learn from experience, he already knows, and everything he does seems perfect, because he has done it before! The blind girl fails to see this, and thinks you are not as much of a man as her father is just because you are not as confident, as successful, as well connected, and as unconditionally forgiving as her old man. This is a desperate situation, and most guys tend to end up getting frustrated and abandoning the relationship. In most cases the father doesn’t make it any easier, by regarding you as a rival—a competitor for his “little girl’s affection”. Every girl should love her father, but not in the same way they love their boyfriend, fiancé or husband! There is absolutely no need for jealousy and envy. Mark, a friend who dated a serious case of a ‘Daddy’s girl syndrome’ can tell you the basics: “In this girl’s eyes, I was a boy, even though I had a good five years on her. There was only one man in this world, and that was her father. I am a patient guy but this girl didn’t show any signs of moving on from being her dad’s little girl. She still lived with her father, which made it worse. This meant that everything we talked about with the girl was replayed for the dad. I discovered this one day when I called her phone and her dad answered. I knew they were close, but surely not this close. The father told me she was preparing for our date, and he told me he liked it that I wasn’t rushing his daughter… That took things to another level. My conversations with her became very guarded, and before long, I had nothing to say to her.” shemmuvisha@gmail.com