This isn’t about who is the stronger sex, or “I am the man” story, so don’t just dismiss it. Even the most jaded chic, the most feminist of feminists appreciates a man who knows when to step in and take control of affairs. This isn’t about being macho or about muscles, but rather a character that is deep-rooted and shows wisdom and capability. Everyone has been in a situation where something happens, everyone around panics, and obviously someone needs to take charge of the situation. Anyone could take up this role, but this natural assignment is primarily the man’s. If the man in the house cannot take it up, it sure leaves a vacuum. True, we are all humans, and we are susceptible to the same fears and doubts, but it’s also the role of a man to be decisive about simple things like how a man organizes his household to how he handles the bills at home. Things like how a man deals with waitresses at a restaurant, the people he employs, or how he talks to strangers and how he deals with complicated situations tells much about his character. Taking charge of a situation doesn’t necessarily require physical strength or intimidation. You don’t need to be loud-mouthed and shout everyone else down. Interestingly, like one advert says, “Easy does it”. The calm talk, the gentle answer dissipates anger and puts you in a position of control. Being in charge differs from being dominant. Being in charge requires strength of character, being dominant is more like being a bully. A man who is in charge doesn’t fear to ask for advice when he needs it, because it doesn’t make him any weaker, but rather reinforces his stability. A man who is in charge delegates, because by assigning authority to others he gains more authority. If there is anything that turns women off, it’s the lack of self-confidence. You don’t advertise it; it’s felt by those around you. You carry it in your posture, your talk, your character. But the ability to take charge is not a solitary trait. It is dependent on things like confidence, level-headedness, and respect. shemmugisha@gmail.com
