Rachel’s Ramblings : things you must never mention about your ex

In every relationship, the past comes up in conversation, while a guy thinks that he should know certain information about his girlfriend for future reference, he is really better off being happily oblivious. You see, the truth isn’t always the best option. A man’s ego is easily bruised so a woman should be careful while talking about her ex. Here are a few things Men most definitely wouldn’t want to hear.“He is doing great.” Some couples keep in touch after breaking up and there’s usually nothing wrong with that, as long as it remains on a platonic level. The ex and the current boyfriend have probably never met, so is it really necessary to let him know what’s happening in the old boyfriend’s life? Your current flame doesn’t really care about your ex’s pregnant sister, or his upcoming audition for Tusker Project Fame. “He made good money.”Did the old boyfriend make tons of money? Keep that information to yourself. If the new guy finds out that he makes less money than what you’re used to, he will feel incompetent. Don’t make him feel like can’t provide for you. It’s insulting.“Everyone loved him.” A guy likes to think he is the best man you’ve ever dated and that he’s the favorite of all the important people in your life: siblings, friends, and especially your parents.When your new guy finds out that everybody loved your old boyfriend, his confidence wanes. It’s bad enough that his girlfriend has certain expectations. Now, living up to the group’s expectations might be an order too tall.“He was funny.” Guys love to make women laugh, especially because every woman on the planet is looking for a mate with a “sense of humor.” Since we aren’t all funny, pickings will be slim. But every guy thinks he is a riot. Even if the ex was pee-your-panties hysterical, the new guy doesn’t want to know he would only be the opening act if they were in the same room. “He got into fights.”No guy wants to imagine that your ex may someday come back to fight for you and quite literally be ready to roll up his sleeves. They also don’t want to feel like they have to engage in confrontations every time a guy smiles at you in a public setting. Most men like it when their woman is a head-turner but aren’t really keen on punching the chin of that head when it turns back around.It’s a tricky thing for really but there is a way out and that is by not talking about the ex at all. If the new guy keeps asking questions about your ex simply tell him that you don’t wish to talk about the past because you are moving forward. It’s easier than saying a whole bunch of stuff that seems like the honest truth but not one bit funny to the guy in front of you! cjanzi83@yahoo.co.uk