When a person gets married, they are ready to adjust to a more responsible lifestyle. I say responsible because you have a spouse and things should be done and discussed as a couple. Gone are the days when you could leave office at 5:00 p.m, head straight to a bar, go dancing all night and then remember you have a bed to sleep in at around 7:00 a.m! When married, you have to take your spouse into consideration. Marriage doesn’t mean the end of partying. But it is definitely the end of crazy partying. There is a big difference. For a person who was a die hard fan of the night clubs, marriage means the end of that. As a married man or woman you need to realize that you can’t afford to be hanging out every other night. That is being unserious. Getting married confirmed that you were ready to put something else first and that something is not a bar! Some couples hang out on a specific day of the week like a Friday. I believe that is reasonable. Some go out as a couple while others opt to stay home. Either way, there is no harm with that. But if you are planning on getting married and think you can still act like a bachelor or bachelorette, you are terribly mistaken. No one wants a partner who frequents the local pub or disco more than they use the bathroom. That is a habit you have to stop the moment you say ‘I do’. If you have doubts that you can’t, I suggest you cancel the wedding before you make your partner miserable all their life. Some people take advantage of the fact that once they have been pronounced man and wife, there is no going back. Who feeds you with such lies? Whether it’s a divorce or separation, it can happen. Try not to get married if you know you will suck at it. Or at least have a positive attitude and work towards changing for the better. That is why it is very important to get married to someone you share a lot in common. It has never made sense to me for a really laid back, church going, non drinking or smoking and always home kind of person getting married to a chaotic, party obsessed, drunkard who leaves everyone wondering what beef heshe has with their home. Do not put yourself through something like that unless you can handle it or you sort have the same trait. You’ll just get yourself into a state of depression you can’t get out of. That kind of hard night life is the one that ends when you get married. No spouse in their right mind can tolerate that. Marriage doesn’t mean you can’t go to a night club anymore. Just don’t be as if you are being paid to do it. Most couples go there once in a while and usually stick to dinner parties. Night life is still exciting for some couples and there is no secret to that. Everything has it’s time. On the other hand, there are married people who still hang out like they did on campus. Those are the ones I believe just rushed into the whole marriage thing without putting all aspects into consideration. Very selfish behavior if you ask me. cjanzi83@yahoo.co.uk
