When you are in the middle of the divorce process, it is hard to imagine life after divorce. Below are seven tips that will help you feel encouraged instead of discouraged. Find Yourself a Good Listener: The one thing you are going to feel the need for is communication. The ability to share your feelings about what you are going through and how it is affecting your life. Find a friend, one who gives good advice, can be objective and is willing to let you know if your actions are doing you harm. Don’t talk to your children about your problems, they have their own divorce issues to deal with. A trusted friend and confidant will be priceless when it comes to coping during divorce. Forget About Revenge: As sweet as it may be, focusing on getting revenge keeps you from focusing on rebuilding your life. Let’s face it, it takes two to make a marriage and two to destroy a marriage. Sure, he/she may have played a larger role in the destruction of the marriage, what you should focus on is coming to terms with the role you played. Accept responsibility, let go of your anger and get on with the fine art of living. Put More Energy Into Your Professional Life: If marital problems caused problems in your career now would be a good time to focus on work and those areas of work that have suffered. Focusing energy on work will help take your mind off divorce problems. It will also give you structure and routine and during stressful situations, you need both. Be careful not to use work to keep from facing and dealing with problems. It’s good therapy but should not take the place of any work needed to be done toward personal growth. Broaden Your Horizons: Take advantage of being single and free. Try things you’ve always wanted to try but couldn’t because you were tied down. Take an exotic vacation alone, join a Swing Dancing class, go skydiving or, maybe something as simple as a night out every week with friends. Open yourself up to new ideas and lifestyles. In the process, you may find an inner you, you didn’t know existed. Get Out and Get Social: Get out of the house! No sitting home staring at four walls allowed. Join a divorce support group or a singles group for divorced people. Doing enjoyable things with people who have been through the same experience can be good therapy and fun also. Source: Internet
