RELATIONSHIPS : Forgiven but never forgotten

Being cheated on can be painfully forgiven but forgetting about it is a challenge. Therefore standing faithful is what a wise partner could stick to. This will preserve his or her commitment and dignity not only in public but also before the partner; a lecturer was discouraging students from the habit when the right time comes. That was far back during the schooldays. He explained further to exhaust what he planned for guidance. However learners ended up only looking at one another with no contribution even though the lecturer kept insisting. However, signs and whispers from the background could easily show the guilty parties at the time. Finally, the lecturer managed to pull his ordinance into a cross fire contribution with controversial reasoning. The point was who cheats and who can endure to forgive upon being cheated on. He said, “In this dot com generation, some youth have also termed cheating to be a form of discovery and making it compulsory.” Although none of us could tell if this was a professional means to attract attention, not all agreed. This pulled the crowd into the air with controversial comments and arguments which also revealed many people’s choices and dislikes. “If I caught my husband cheating on me, I would automatically have a lot to think about. It would be so hard for me to make a proper decision,” says Aline Mahoro, 30, with five years in marriage. “This time I have to relax and think of the best decision against the incident,” she added. She attributed the confusion to the many ways partners behave in a relationship and said, “Cheating is not the same; others cheat once and feel guilty about it while others will continue despite the embarrassment of being caught red-handed.” “The challenge is how one can identify who does it as a habit, once, or one who can change from it.” Charles, a friend of mine in his early 30s said he can never stand the pain of being cheated on. He explains how difficult it is to regain the trust for such a partner. “I can never be comfortable with a partner who I know can cheat on me. Such a situation can also affect my work performance,” he said. He added that whenever they are not together, he will assume she is out with another man. Charles believes that the only way through which he can have a comfortable life is when he has a faithful partner. “Love is not a joke. There is a way it comforts people even when they are in danger or through hard moments,” he said. Cheating scandals between lovers and married couples is one of the distractive behaviours eating society. This has even led to breaking apart many peoples` families and relationships. The causes of cheating are endless, although this may depend on particular individuals; others do it to revenge upon realizing that partners cheat on them. So, should we say there is a chance that one can be forgiven and the incident forgotten? Hard one this. Email: bab_su@yahoo.com