WOMAN 2 WOMAN : A woman he needs

Love is everything in a life of a woman. Failing to be successful in his professional sphere, a man at such a moment can not think about his relationships; on the contrary, a woman, having serious problems with her love affair, can not concentrate on her job. Either agreeing with these statements or not, you can not deny the fact that love and relationships are huge parts of a woman’s life. Exceptions are very few. It all starts in the early childhood. Girls play dolls, marrying them, creating toy families; they play as mothers and daughters. Later girls start to dream of a beautiful white bride’s dress; they are trying to catch the bouquet on the weddings of their elder relatives and friends. Their favourite topic for discussion are boys. They imagine a magnificent first date, a romantic first kiss, a perfect boyfriend, an ideal husband and a happy family. This may sound simplistic but it is a reality for a good number of women! On the contrary, men tend to be more demanding when they want a serious relationship with a woman. Simply put - He needs a housekeeper in the kitchen, a lady in public, a partner in work, a friend in troubles and a porn-star in the bedroom. The funniest thing is that very often, men do not understand that all these different identities can not survive in a body of one woman. They often forget that a modern woman, does not stand in the shadow of her man any longer, and does not consider her only aim to help him and to serve his interests. So this – I want it all and I want it now – does not work. While every man has his own priorities in relationships with the opposite sex, there are some basic traits that men look for in a woman! A man needs an understanding and loyal friend in a woman. He likes to talk about his interests, ideas and projects. He would like to have a passionate listener who will look at him with admiring and understanding eyes, catching his every single word, sharing every thought. You may not even try to understand what he is talking about, but he will be sure that he has finally met a soul mate. This misunderstanding, can last for while, until you both find out whether you really share the same ideas, or the woman is simply trying to manipulate, while the man is listening only to himself. Family is a shelter, where self-assurance is being grown and cultivated. A man needs that kind of a faithful woman that will provide comfort to his house, remind him restlessly that he is the best, and that everything will work out just the way he is planning it. But if the woman dares to express her own point of view on the man’s business and projects, he will probably cease the very first attempt because, he needs nothing more than approval. Nowadays, modern women work so that they have enough problems and interests of their own. Both men and women are supposed to look for a new ground for communicating, because that patriarchal family model has almost ruined. Another type of a suitable female partner for a man is a sexual, charming and attractive woman. All men like beautiful gorgeous women. The problem is that dazzling image and long red nails have nothing in common with cooking, cleaning and washing. At the end of the day, there are no standards for relationships, what men and women look for in the opposite sex varies. We all should remind ourselves from time to time that we are living in the real world; both men and women are not perfect. Everybody, has bad habits and sins, some positive or negative past experience, fears and complexes. While building relationships you have to deal with all that in each other to be successful. bernanamata@gmail.com