Being a man has its undeniable advantages. However, living in an era when nothing distinguishes men from women apart from the region below the belt, it appears that men are eventually losing out on all fronts. The feminists are having it their way nowadays and it looks like it is payback time for the many years that they were marginalized. This is a good thing though in some ways it is negatively affecting their male counter parts. Today, there are no specific male roles or positions in the corporate world as women can occupy any decisive position as the males and perform any tasks. Things have changed a lot, that it is very easy for women to accumulate wealth than it is for men. Women nowadays party as hard as any man, and when it comes to amassing wealth, they do much better. When the money has been made by the man, it is our money. Her money, however, remains hers. In the event that the marriage does not go well, the woman can always count on alimony to survive. She is at liberty to enjoy good life on your sweat and also her latest boyfriend’s. Jack Shema a business man says that women in Kigali are almost driving him crazy because of their money hungry tendencies. “I have for three years now failed to get myself a marriage ‘material’ girl because most of the girls I have dated so far, are only after the money.” Jack claims. ‘I have for now given up on the search for my better half’ he adds. These sentiments are shared by many single men in Kigali. It is a common thing to see a group of young men hanging by themselves in hang out spots in the city. Most of these men are not by themselves out of choice but rather because of fear of being driven bankrupt by the ladies.Frank a government employee, has had his fair share of disappointments in relationships. He has so far broken up with three would be future wives. “I have had relationships that have begun well and ended up in disaster”. He says. “In all instances I always begin the relationships splashing my girl with money only for her to realise later that I am not worth the millions she thought I possess”. Frank sadly narrates. “Once I can no longer afford to take her to the expensive spots in Kigali, buy her expensive jewellery, or regularly pay her saloon bills, then she simply drops me or looks for excuses for breaking up.” The most bizarre and interesting story is Frank’s third girlfriend who was earning and had a higher paying job than him and still could not pay her bills or offer to help Frank in some of their domestic responsibilities despite them dating for ten months. Clarisse Uwineza a student at UNILAK admits that most ladies seek for money and prestige in a man rather than his heart. She says that “The saying amongst most Kigali ladies is that a man’s handsomeness is in his pockets”. This trend is growing and very soon we would be facing a misbalance between bachelors and married men with the former being the majority. These Rwandan ladies trend has unfortunately crossed the borders to the neighbouring countries where people adore the natural beauty of Rwandan ladies, but at the same time dread them because of their materialistic nature. Most of them are shying away from making commitments and prefer to have short term fun with them. dedantos2002@yahoo.com
