Dear Aunt Silvia, I am a young married woman and a mother of one girl. My job requires that I move from one place to another with some of my colleagues because it’s part of our work. I had in particular made a very close friend to one of my male colleagues and we shared many things together. My friendship with my colleague blossomed into a very serious relationship, to an extent that we ended up sharing one room when we were out of town. Recently I was very sick and went to seek medical advice, but was very shocked to learn that I was suffering from a sexually transmitted disease. The doctor advised me to bring my husband so that both of us can be checked and treated. I am so ashamed of myself because I am sure I contracted the disease from my colleague. How do I face my husband to tell him of this affair and the disease?Jacky Dear Jacky, This is the price you are paying for cheating on your spouse. As a married woman you should abhor adultery even if you have not seen your husband in years. Sex is not tea or food that if one misses it they will die. There is nothing that kills a marriage faster than when a spouse finds out about the other’s infidelity. Whether you chose to tell him about your love affair with your colleague or not, the fact still remains that you have to make him aware of the current situation you are in, so that he too can seek medical advice before it’s too late. You also have to insist on being tested for HIV/AIDS just to be on the safer side. A word of caution to you and all other married men and women who are having flings in the office; First and foremost an office is not a place where people are put together to exercise their sexual prowess, but are there to work and be paid for their work. There are people out there who are specialized in office flings, these characters always know whom and when to strike. As a young married lady your colleague might have seen your vulnerability and taken advantage. People make mistakes and are forgiven, instead of sulking and dying inside, it is better you share your predicament with your spouse immediately so that together both of you can find a way to heal and forgive each other, because to err is human to forgive is divine. kayitesius@yahoo.com
