Although there might be other causes of divorce, it is generalized that “problems” in marriage have forced many homes to break-apart. In that view, others believe that divorce is one of the many solutions to such problems. For some who have divorced with no particular cause but “problems” in general and later found other partners to whom they are married again, it’s not a curse but they may have a similar taste like it’s said, “history repeats itself.” Based on how challenging getting the right partner is, it may be right to say that others take on wrong choices. However, it’s equally important to check on ones` patience whenever hard times show-up. Apart from the lucky few who get married to those they have known for long, it is possible for strangers to meet and make a couple in the next few months. It does not matter where people meet be it in a night club, hotel and other such places. Based on such background, it is hard to think that one will get a partner with all the deserved qualities. It is important to note that although other problems that have caused families to break apart are sometimes natural, others come as mans` failure to understand what life is all about. Divorcing a husband or wife for a new catch, might be risking encountering new and totally different problems in life which may either be worse than before. Although many have divorced and later succeeded in new marriages, it is also true that some keep on divorcing until when marriage loses meaning for them. However, the fact that man can conceal the worst side, it does not wipe-down the fact that choice is made depending on qualities one sees of another. Sincerely who on earth is always perfect in whatever he or she does? People have weaknesses in many different ways. Therefore forgiving and seeking for forgiveness in case of mistakes is necessary. Seeking for forgiveness is challenging mostly to husbands instead they become more aggressive in defending their wrong actions. It is also important to note such characters in men in that it will give the wife appropriate tactics to handle the husband when found in the wrong. However, this should not be an automatic go-ahead for such husbands. The way they feel ashamed to apologize before their wives should help them to avoid the wrong. Besides, it is of importance to note that forgiving and failure to forgive impacts both partners, depending on the decisions taken, but failure creates more harm to the couple’s welbeing. Jennifer Mbabazi, a parent and married for over 10years, said that marriage is quite a challenging institution that needs advisors on particular issues that should be handled with care. “Although I have been in marriage for over ten years, I still face hard time in the institution. However, forgiving each other and apologizing for a mistake keeps it moving.” She also noted that as a mother, it’s hard to make a decision to divorce. “I first of all imagine leaving my four children to go and start life with another man quite challenging. As we are different, men too are.” Briefly she shared her marriage life experience saying that patience and consultation with elders about the challenges she faces has made her marriage last. Divorce should therefore not be seen as a solution. Email: bab_su@yahoo.com
