RELATIONSHIPS: A feeling is not love until it’s developed

It takes a long time to love someone, but less to have a feeling. The challenge ahead is to differentiate feelings from love being that one leads to another. It’s therefore possible to develop feelings the very first time you pick interest in someone. Ladies and Gentlemen, some female youth may be greatly challenged, but am sure men are right there. Interpreting feelings and love creates a big misunderstanding between men and brilliant ladies. As some believe that a feeling is love, hence expressing it wrongly. Based on the feelings that some men develop, they fail to contain hence saying it out all at first sight. Way of expression is very important. This is where men mess-up most by mentioning “I love you” right away. Such an expression can never work out for brilliant ladies of the time. Fellow ladies will bear me witness, that sometimes they also have feelings for some guys before they are contacted. But since they (ladies) are not gifted with such initiatives, they sometimes use signs of love. I might be offending some, based on their opinions to which they are entitled to, but this comes right from our great grandmothers. It’s a moral character which was adopted to be passed onto our grand daughters come next generations. Although it’s not easy to express a feeling, this is why they are called men. They have to prove it by themselves. It’s unfortunate that some men engage in external efforts to help in expressing their feelings to those they feel attracted to. Maybe they believe that its possible for a man to express another man’s feeling the same way he would have done. I do not buy such an idea, nor do I give it room to exist in my opinion. Imagine one who aspires to be a future father of your children can not stand firm to convince the one he intends to be a wife. Except a few who can go with such men, intelligent women will not risk starting a family with such a man. That’s why some sharp and quick men take advantage of the weak and shy to develop their feelings and finally take over what would have belonged to others. Jokingly, a friend of mine was not embarrassed for me to know from her that a shy man is not a man enough, from her personal experience. She said that they (shy men) can never develop a feeling to become love. They are not in position to show their partners effective relationship to win their minds for future plans. Therefore she advised to keep away from them, as they are time wasting. Time wasting or not, I guess the point here is going for the jugular and honestly and bravely expressing your true feelings! Girls, what do you say? Email: bab_su@yahoo.com