Relationships: Nagging may ruin the love

Yes, we all need a shoulder to cry on, the more reason why we go in for relationships. However, being cry babies all the time may be quite boring. Love is often misinterpreted. Defining love, many would explain it as a place to run to when trouble comes or when they need someone to talk to. This explains why many love relationships have failed. Not for cheating or anything big, we are too nagging and our spouses may not handle that. Nagging is simply demanding too much care and all the attention to you! Sharing grief and great moments make love stronger but demanding for attention and being extremely cared for in all situations is a total put off. In most cases, love birds have even come up with imaginary problems to see if their partners really care! For sure not receiving that midnight call when ill has at some point made you feel like letting go of your long cherished relationship! It’s human that everyone needs to be cared for but if you get to the extreme you’ll end up losing it all. People perceive being nagging as insecurity or wanting to exploit them. “I recently broke up with my girlfriend because she was demanding too much. She would always complain about me not caring especially when she was ill,” says Alphonse Singirankabo. Nagging makes a relationship the most horrible place to be. Instead of being happy with your love, you’ll always be arguing about this and that and finding all kinds of faults to blame each other for. Complimenting each other and standing by each other during situations is natural. And if you let it come naturally you’ll enjoy it. It’s said that true love doesn’t need help. If your Mr. or Miss Right loves you dearly, they will stand by you even when you don’t plead. “When a man always accuses me of not doing ABC, I only think that he looks out for faults than appreciating my positive side,” says Esther Umurerwa. Appreciating the simplest things love provides can make it everlasting while criticizing and spending valuable time telling spouses what they should or shouldn’t have done may ruin it all. Logically it’s like dictating over some issues or changing one’s character forcefully. Accept the fact that everyone is created differently. There are some issues touching to some while to others they don’t. It’s better to concentrate on truthfully learning our spouses’ character. A saying goes that do what you would like others to do for you. We should rather learn to love unconditionally without looking at the faults and demanding much. This way, we shall win love and care. Since love is patient, preserve your complaints and make it work. Ends