They say summer is the right time to rekindle love and romance after months of hard work and going through different seasons. Well, these days it seems we have summer too, starting July through September. There is a lot to do; concerts, weddings, holidays, travel and visiting far off relatives and friends. The summer period also serves as the right time to work on marriages and relationships, to reignite that spark that has waned over the past few months. Relationships need constant effort to flourish. Forgiving your partner where you should and resolving grudges, settling quarrels and finding time for each other are things that require constant trying and when taken for granted, it could go south. Summer, therefore, is a time to rekindle your love by cutting out squabbles and bitterness, and instead focus on things that bring you closer and regenerate lost intimacy. So, are you looking to rekindle that lost spark and restore intimacy in your relationship this summer? Here are a few things you can do: Do things together Summer is a time to do things together. For those with children, chances are they are home for holidays. Find time to be together as a family. Hangout on sunny days, after all there isn’t much to do. Take children for swimming lessons, go to church or outings. By spending time together, you will be surprised how close you will become again. Be more attentive It is more important to be attentive to your better half’s needs in this period. This doesn’t call for a grand gesture. Start with small things, talking about your plans, talking to children. Be available in this period because this is when your attention is needed. Naturally all over the world, summer is about getting closer to each other. Make time to pay attention to your loved ones. Avoid quarrels, fights Summer is all about relaxing and rewinding. This is not a time to start fights or pick on your partner. Psychologically, this period, just like the festive season, is about relaxing, mixing and mingling. Don’t be the one to bring bad vibes or bad energy. Make sure you don’t nag your significant other or pick on each and every mistake. By doing this, you will naturally bond again. Spend quality time together Most people think that living together and spending time together are the same thing. You can spend all the time in the world with someone and still be disconnected. Start by going for a walk together, watching a movie, doing chores, exercising together, or simply having a meal. Be more intimate According to experts, active sex life does make a happier relationship. Moreover, be intimate with your partner emotionally, be connected, and be vulnerable. This means letting go of grudges and working on your relationship everyday and prioritising it. Laugh more It is important to laugh with each other. Crack old and new jokes, watch funny shows together as much as possible. It is your duty to find methods to laugh together as much as possible. Laughter creates a light-hearted atmosphere in a marriage or relationship, making both of you feel happy. Pick interests and hobbies Doing what we love makes us happy. Take a keen interest in your spouse’s hobbies and interests and find a way of engaging them on the things they love. It is true we all have various likes and dislikes, but there are moments when we should make an effort to indulge in what our partners enjoy. They will feel like you care about them. Avoid phones, gadgets Last but not least, find a way to avoid phones and gadgets while you are at it. If possible, put them away. We don’t often realise that being hooked to our phones or computers robs us of important time with our loved ones, a time to communicate and talk to each other. You probably want to keep in touch with friends and what is happening on social media but this will not build your relationship.
