Relationships: Trust in a long distance relationship

The different work people do may sometimes force them to stay away from their families for long periods. It is endured in order to earn a desirable life style for their families. It’s not easy to survive without work, maybe for a few born with a silver spoon in their mouths. Despite all the hard work and fruits born out of it, one of the partners may not feel happy; they may grow a sense of insecurity and distrust. Trusting a partner depends on very many factors, varying from one individual to another. Although many trust their partners, some stay in the relationship because they have no option. Benon, a Ugandan working in Rwanda, has his family in Kenya where he previously worked. He says that to him, work is for a better life. He gives it almost all his time in order to achieve his goals. In his early 40s, he says that he trusts his wife so much that he is not even worried of intruders coming to his home during the time he spends in Rwanda. “I trust her so much and I can’t think of her cheating on me. Even if she did, I can’t even suspect her,” he stressed. A father of three, he explained that the trust comes from as far back as their youth. “I never got her in any wrong at a time when we were all strong enough to do all we wanted to. That was the time she was more beautiful than now,” he noted. For some, that might sound out of this world. But there are many Benons out there. So, it’s possible to trust your partner even when they are out of sight. Rehema, in her 30s, is staying with her husband in Rwanda. She says that she never allows the husband to spend even a night out. She explains that some men are like children, where they find more comfort is where they will get stark. “It’s not that I do not trust him, but I do not wat other ladies to utilise my absence to win him,” she disclosed. Rehema was however quick to point out that men and women trust each other depending on the experience they get they get when they stay together for a long time. Tom who is not married nor in a long distance relationship said, “Trusting a partner who works far away and probably stay away from home is possible and it makes marriage easy.” I am not an expert in these matters but I think having trust in a partner is gradual and depends on the genuine feelings between partners. Ends