Self-discipline is a way to keep students focused on their learning. But, it can be difficult to stay self-disciplined throughout this period when students are learning at home, given the distractions, like TV. Education experts believe that self-discipline should be enforced; that means encouraging students to do what they should be doing. Self-discipline often means putting off your immediate comfort or wishes in favour of long-term success. Aminadhad Niyonshuti, an English teacher at Apaper Complex School, believes that the ultimate goal of the parenting strategy now is to teach children self-discipline, which will keep them on the right track. This, he points out, is important because it fights inappropriate temptations, and boosts the need to reach long-term goals. For instance, he notes, during this time when kids are on the internet and social media, self-discipline means choosing to turn off a video game to finish classwork, among other things. Or, he says, it could be avoiding unhealthy habits like overeating, and sleeping or watching TV for long hours in favour or reading an enlightening book or doing sports. “In general, self-discipline is the key to helping kids become responsible adults in the future,” he says. How to go about it Dr Andrew E. Ivang from the Department of Clinical Biology – Huye campus, University of Rwanda, says it’s important to give students the skills they need to develop self-discipline, as well as an opportunity to practice making good choices. He says it’s important to talk to young ones about everything that needs to be adjusted, rather than waiting for consequences. For instance, Ivang says, giving them the attention they need is paramount, adding that children and teens, when denied attention, can become rebellious, which could lead to further problems. “The most powerful tool for effective discipline is attention, to reinforce good behaviour and discourage others, every child will need attention from their parents or guardians,” he says. Ivang adds that when effective discipline is ensured, it boosts a child’s self-esteem. The most important aspect, however, he says, is that discipline helps a child learn the values and morals of the family. Mathias Nkeeto, a mathematics teacher at Green Hills Academy, is of the view that creating a schedule every day can help children respect the routine. For this reason, it’s easy for a child to practice self-discipline even in the absence of their parents. On the other hand, Nkeeto says a good home routine teaches students how to divide the time between chores, homework, and fun while at home. “It is important to seek opinions from your children on everything you decide to come up with as a parent,” Nkeeto adds. This can be an eye-opening experience that can lead to creative solutions for both parties. Jackyline Iribagiza, a counsellor and matron at Martyrs School in Remera, says to be able to instil good moral in students, parents should act as role models in everything. She explains that children learn from watching the adults around them. Also, she says, improve areas that you are weak in as a parent, so that your child can follow. The counsellor believes in rewarding children that behave well. She explains that the reward can target specific behaviour problems. “Keeping in mind that there are plenty of rewards that don’t necessarily cost money is important, it all depends on what makes your child happy or feel motivated to carry out tasks,” Iribagiza says. Nkeeto believes that discipline is all about teaching rather than punishment — it does not teach children what they should do, rather, attempts to stop bad behaviour. However, he points out that discipline is not the same as punishment, like many parents think. Instead, he says, it involves nurturing, setting expectations and boundaries, and fostering within your child a sense of personal responsibility. “Teaching your child to set aside their desires so they can fulfil their obligations is the key to imparting discipline,” he notes. Iribagiza goes on to add that effective discipline begins with establishing clear rules and consequences—and enforcing them consistently. It also helps to acknowledge and praise children’s positive behaviour. “Children perform better when they know what is expected of them, when parents set high, yet reasonable expectations, children are more likely to meet them,” she observes. Meanwhile, studies have shown that a positive home environment contributes to students’ success. Nkeeto says this is why it’s important for parents to discuss effective discipline with their children.
