Editor, RE: “When a grown woman won’t leave the parent’s home” (The New Times, March 17). In African society it is quite a new trend that is considerably a taboo. To me, given the mentality of our community, it is not advisable for a girl to put up outside her parent’s home. It is rather fine if she stayed there.Looking at the way we are raised,we’re more under strict rule of “don’ts”. Once there is a relaxation in these rules, girls are tempted to express their so-called freedom that was denied. Given the poverty scales you’ll find these girls in need of financial help such that they can over see their expenditure. They’ll eventually want to depend on financially stable men who are mainly married. They are more likely to offer sex in return. Men also can hardly marry an independent woman as they would find them hard to manage. It is in the mind though but once one tries to get introduced to a new girl there is kind of relief when you find that she is still living with her parents. There is though a new wave of girls that once lived together in sorority during their school time. These, as they wait to get better paying jobs, tend to rent and live together. Society will definitely not take it lightly—it will be a gradual process but all in all above 30, why would one set it as a benchmark to leave the parents? Kassim Bizimungu
