Ask the Counselor: Is my daughter about to make a huge mistake?

My daughter is 30 years old and has a nine year old son. The father of the boy is only getting acquainted with him as he did not know he was a father. She had the baby when she was very young, the guy was away and I have never really understood why she never found a way to tell him. He seems like a pretty decent guy and perhaps it’s my imagination but I feel like he has feelings for her. However, my daughter has been chatting with some guy in Canada on the internet and is now going on holiday with the boy and hasn’t said when she’ll back. I told her it is not right as she barely even knows this guy and asked her to stay and try to work it out with the father of her child but she won’t listen. She says she has sole custody of the kid and can do what she wants but this is huge mistake and I am powerless to stop her. I don’t know what to do. Ruth Your feedback: Readers advise Ruth Long distance is not a problem Bruno Kwizera Distance doesn’t really matter. The connection they have is what matters the most. I have seen people that meet online and get married. It shouldn’t be a problem. Stephen Bruno Kwizera She should think about her daughter Stella Komugisha Your daughter should think of her child first. Would she want her daughter to have two men in her life when her real father is actually around? I don’t think so. She should think before acting. Stella Komugisha Will her new man love her child? She should think about how the new man will love her daughter and how he will deal with her baby daddy’s presence. Otherwise she will be miserable if it doesn’t work out. Kristine Diomande Let her be happy with the guy she wants Monia Mbonimpa Just because her baby daddy is nice doesn’t mean she should go with him, maybe they don’t connect and that other guy makes her happy. Let her go with her happiness and this other guy will also find his. Each one has someone that is meant for them so let it be. Monia Mbonimpa Let her be I am guessing your daughter has reasons as to why she didn’t say a word to her daughter’s father. Maybe it’s because he didn’t care and she has found someone that makes her happy now. It’s her time to be happy with someone she wants so don’t get in the way. Collins Mulenzi FACEBOOK Give her time Sekyaya Denis She is still young. She is having fun. One time she will settle and know what is right for her. Give her sometime. Denis Sekyaya Don’t be hard on her We are way past the era of parents choosing for us whom to marry or date. Why are you being hard on the girl? Having a child doesn’t tie you to one person. Ty Rukundo Is she crazy? Having a child with one guy and going on vacation with another random chap is insane. She needs to settle down. Mike Habineza She should stick to her baby daddy She is going on vacation with a guy even before she is sure that it is an actual relationship? Why doesn’t she just save herself the trouble and marry her seemingly nice baby daddy? Trust Kwitonda She needs to settle Carine Holland In the Rwandan culture we believe someone isn’t supposed to go ‘wondering’ around after she has had a child out of wedlock. She needs to settle. Carine Holland She might regret it Tim Fredrick There is a saying that goes, “Better stay with the devil you know than the angel you don’t know” and I think it says enough. Okello Komagum

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Ask the Counselor: Is my daughter about to make a huge mistake?