Would you take a loan to fund your wedding?(Asking for contribution is not cool)

An average wedding in East Africa costs about $8500 according to the Msafari’s tour survey. On weddings you don’t expect friends and family to cover the entire event. Now, let us be sincere, how many employed Rwandans do you think save even half of that average wedding cost? It is the couple’s day and it only happens once (divorcing and remarrying is invalid here) why not make it big and deal with the payment of the loan later? Besides it is just a loan for Christ’s sake. I mean it is not like the bank will come and confiscate your partner immediately after the wedding because you can’t pay up. Before you get the loan you sign for terms and conditions that you can work with. Loans definitely make your big day move much more smoothly. They say cheap things come at a cost. Have you attended a wedding and the bride looks like she just walked 100 miles in the desert? That is as a result of cutting costs; wanting something big at a small amount. Why make the one biggest day of your life so stressful? A nice wedding ends with a honey moon to some exotic place. Why should the wedding end and you look at your partner wondering what is next? Then you end up going to the village just to hide away from town and pretend you were in your honeymoon. A loan can help you make plans for all this because the money is available. Savings are quite important and instead of spending them on a wedding and then living in an empty house, I would rather get a loan for the wedding then spend my savings getting different things for our house. It is a quick way of establishing a home and the money borrowed will be paid over time which will cut down my burden. In my village, the relatives that contribute the most money towards your wedding seem to be the ones who decide how things should run. And because they gave the biggest share you can’t speak against them. Why should I have an old aunt or uncle who got married about 30 years back decide what I should do on my wedding? I would rather things run the way I want them to. Plus, instead of boring and inconveniencing people with budget forms, let me do the damn thing myself and celebrate the fact that I won’t be entitled to contribute to anybody else’s wedding!