WOMAN 2 WOMAN: An independent woman is every man’s dream

Gone are the days when a woman’s job is giving birth and cooking. These days, men are warming up to the idea that a woman who can contribute financially to the family can be an important asset. As a woman you must seek to be financially independent and to have an independent mind. This means you have the ability to determine what is good for you and refuse what you don’t like. A woman with an independent mind is not afraid of saying “No” to a man. And when she says “No” she means no. This doesn’t apply only to married women, but to every woman including the one who is still searching and dating. A woman should never make a man think, “Without me, she will never survive.” When a man realises that you are fully dependant on him either he accepts to stay with you so that he can manipulate you or he dumps you. Take it or leave it, no man wants a woman who is always asking for financial favours. If you are dating a man and he says something like “I have just won a million francs,” your response should be “Good for you. Congratulations.” This response means you are not terribly impressed or hungry to have a piece of it. If he picks you up or offers you a lift, when you get into the car say, “Thank you for picking me up. It was so thoughtful of you to drive so far out of your way.” This shows that you appreciate him, not the car. When it comes to marriage men tend to shy away from women who know all the expensive places, order for expensive items on the menu, yet can’t afford to take themselves to these places. Men are largely attracted to women who are in control of their lives. When a man recognises that you are focused on your own dreams or on elevating yourself he feels safer marrying you (or keeping you as a wife). Men worry about making ends meet and what you would do if he fell short of cash. Rest assured, men dream of a girl who they can spend the rest of their lives with. But in his dreams, his partner is someone he can always count on always. It is your independence that wins a man’s heart. Contact: ubernie@gmail.com