When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. That’s my sincere advice to baby mamas.Regardless of the circumstances, I find it utterly stupid when a woman does the impossible to marry an unwilling man because they have a child together. Crying and resenting a man you once loved and planned a future with together is normal, but outrageous is when you make the marriage decision seem like a do or die matter.

This child came as a result of the great times shared, not a way to blackmail the father into a pointless, loveless marriage. In West, single motherhood isn’t as frowned upon as it is here. Children out of wedlock are dubbed bastards - this explains why some women would rather shoot the responsible dude into marriage than bring a bastard into the world. I was treated to free drama recently; a middle aged woman went stalking a man (about the same age) at his place of work claiming he got her pregnant and wasn’t popping the question. After a series of unanswered phone calls, the furious chick stormed his office like a mad woman.The dude was a little reckless, yes, but I insist this mad woman deserved a hug around the neck with a rope for embarrassing the man and playing victim.She hadn’t been raped, nor was she a minor. Besides, the man in question had agreed to take care of the baby and mother. And while the man was for marriage, he had only known the woman just a few months, not well enough to marry her. Who says pregnancy is an automatic gateway to marriage? I only wonder if women who set up men for marriage think of the danger they are inviting. It’s one thing having unprotected sex with a man whose intentions weren’t clear but to act all vulnerable because you want a ring? It would be more logical to own up to the mistake; mother the child until the guy takes a stand.As for the ones who fake pregnancy to get a marriage proposal, there is more to living than marrying someone who will never love you back. Forgive me if I sound mean, but there is indeed a problem when a woman thinks only prerequisite for marriage is a baby. Compatibility, status, religion, hobbies, education, name it are a few founding factors of today’s marriages while opening legs requires no qualifications at all. I see no problem with a man who owns up to his responsibility. It doesn’t always have to end in marriage!