Some years back in Kigali, many young men steered away from certain girls who were self titled ‘house roses’. These sisters had more beauty than any human being was entitled to - and a loud mouth to go with it!  But the thing is, they were lazier than Garfield himself!  Too lazy to even lift a finger and scratch their backs, let alone do any house chores!The good thing about them, however, was that the moment you asked them to meet your mum, they would openly ask, ‘Do you have a Carina (the hottest car in those days)? The second question would be, do you have a kadogo (house boy)? If you had those two, you were good to go.Apparently, those seemed to be the only qualities they looked for in a man. But at least they were true to themselves and never tried to cover their true colours or hide who they really were. Now we have a new breed. They hate working and love DSTV, ATM cards and shopping vouchers.We swear never to go anywhere near them. They are the typical ‘girls next door’ type and behave the part too. They attract males like moths to light. Poor guys aren’t aware that in trying to dodge potholes, they are falling into a mile-long pit.Once you make the mistake of falling for them, you have to dance to their tune; they are more complicated than a cryptical puzzle in medical journals. They slowly evolve into vixens and control freaks, they want to rule your life, want you to report how you spend the day and why you took too long to answer their call. Unlike their other sisters, they can’t settle with one kadogo, they need two, one to take care of the baby and another to cook and clean the house. It is also a must to have a gate keeper and a driver. Although most of them are educated and have nice jobs, they put double straws in your pockets and suck you dry. If you try to ask where the pits that swallow their salaries are, this makes them angry - angry enough to set off car alarms.Label me naive, but when time to settle comes, I will go with the caterpillar and hope it will turn into a butterfly, than a butterfly that will surprise me.