I recently attended a retreat with journalists and artists during a youth connect dialogue but with the different testimonies I listened to, I realised that for you to be at peace with yourself, you must forgive the people that hurt you.  Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting, but it gives you harmony. There are times when someone hurts you and you wish that the word forgiveness didn’t exist. I have helped some people before and it’s weird how these same people stabbed me in the back. I promised myself not to forgive them, and I instantly get gloomy every time I see them.But during that retreat I learnt one thing; that I can choose not to forgive and live a miserable and bitter life or forgive these people and enjoy life with no personal grudges. Today, the people I used to detest are now officially on my forgiveness list, including the boyfriends that broke my heart! The moment you choose to forgive someone even though they have not actually asked for forgiveness, is therapeutically healthy and psychologically good. Forgiveness heals all wounds.Forgiveness can eliminate ill plans like revenge and its related dangers, so never let the actions of another person poison and damage you.The Bible, in Matthew 18:21-23(New King James Version), ‘The Parable of the Unforgiving Servant shows how we have to forgive seventy seven times. Let’s try to be logical, there is nothing more tiring than being angry at someone who hurt you. When you stay angry at them, they achieve their initial goal and plan to make your life miserable. Therefore why should you conform to their plans and satisfy them by being ill-tempered? Just forgive them and lead a happy life because that way you distort their plans of hurting you.