Being the other woman is a mucky business. It is obvious that you are second best; you will never be number one! This situation makes it impossible for you to see the truth for what it is so you’ll make excuses and justify you’re actions instead of getting out.

Some of the bitter pills you struggle to sallow are, is he going to leave his wife/girlfriend for you? Why hasn’t he left them already? Why does he answer his phone away from you when he is talking to his real woman if he really loves you? The truth is that most men want to have their cake and eat it too. You’d be a fool to allow it. 

In most cases, it is the other woman who suffers. He is selfish and will never let his real woman go. Once he is ‘sorted’, he will go back to his woman. Plus, if he is cheating with you, he will cheat on you.

If he only dates you indoors, in motels, in hideouts or shady night spots, it is not because he loves being with you. It is because he is watching his back and he doesn’t want to get caught.  

If you have some dignity, you have no business being the other woman. Get the commitment you desire and be the leading lady in his life.

Quite burning your calories issuing threats and howling insults, that just makes you look cheap and desperate. Give him an ultimatum if you think you have a chance with him. If he does not come around take your pie and move on. It is not you that he wants to be with. 

Do not stalk him or his girlfriend/wife. If you even consider faking a pregnancy (or actually getting pregnant) talk to someone close or get professional help.

You are better off alone than with a man who will never really be there for you. If he really loves you he will be with you fully. Don’t settle for less.