How to handle betrayal

The world has embraced a distinctive kind of lifestyle, but all that seems to have happened is that we have literally shot ourselves in the leg. Human beings have a yawning desire to be loved and appreciated. I am a very observant person and I have noticed how we relate to one another.  

Wednesday, June 19, 2013

The world has embraced a distinctive kind of lifestyle, but all that seems to have happened is that we have literally shot ourselves in the leg. Human beings have a yawning desire to be loved and appreciated. I am a very observant person and I have noticed how we relate to one another.  

What I see are people that seek relationships for selfish reasons. For example the ones that get into relationships to increase their social status or because of what they can get out of it. I advocate for people who add value to one’s life but you don’t have to be selfish. 

You too can be of value to the other person because both sides of the coin are relevant. True friendship should survive difference in opinions and preferences. Be happy for another’s success and do not breach confidentiality or scheme against them. Relationships are similar to travelling on unfamiliar roads; you are bound to come across potholes which will hinder your journey but the greatest challenge is navigating through the blind spots. The unfortunate thing in life is that some of the blind spots are created by people we know, people we honor, people we love. 

The best way to overcome betrayal is maintaining a positive attitude even when hit hard. Don’t fold up your sleeves and fight back or withdraw and act the victim. Neither of this helps. I believe that one needs to maintain a level of integrity and pride. It is said, never argue with a fool because people will not notice the difference, but it is also true that silence speaks volumes. An exchange of words only stimulates anger and that won’t resolve the conflict. Stay positive and watch the traitor suffer with guilt.