So, save for my dreamy friend , who by the way is still waiting for Mr. Perfect to drop from the sky, most of the women I know insist that in a relationship, all they need is romance – anything else can be sorted out later.

After watching The Notebook one too many times, some women build a romantic fantasy in their imagination and it stays there.

Romance is pretty easy, in our minds that is. All you have to do is make up your dream guy and imagine that yours is the most romantic story since Romeo and Juliet! We come up with the most unbelievable and breathtaking ideas and play scenes that put shame to even the most romantic of movies.

The only catch to all this however, is that they are developed in our fantasies and are glued there, without ever actually taking place in our real lives. There is nothing as frustrating as imagining Leonardo Dicaprio say to you ‘you jump, I jump’ only to face reality when your man can’t care less that you slipped and nearly broke an ankle! Why is that?

Why is it so easy to fantasize about the most amazing romances, but can never find the ones that really exist? According to love-sessions.com, there is no such thing as ‘a romantic dream come true’ until you create its existence. That’s right; carry the key that will open the magical door to making all of your romantic dreams come true.

Do not sit around waiting for a magical wand to be waved and instantly make your dreams come true – you WILL live in your imagination forever. Do not be fooled into thinking that once you meet someone and connect with them, everything will magically fall into place and all your romantic fantasies will drop right before your eyes.

If you want your fantasies to become reality, then you must introduce them to reality, according to the website. Do not assume that your man is a mind reader and should therefore understand that you want him to grab you in the rain and declare his undying love for you like Ryan Gosling did in The Notebook.

You do not necessarily have to ask your partner to act a certain way or do a certain thing. Introduce your romantic ideas by acting them out yourself. For instance, do you dream of scented candles in the bathroom with rose petals in the water? I’m pretty sure Nakumatt sells scented candles and I’m also sure we have florists, so get to it, and let him find you home ready for a romantic evening. 

This will paint him a picture, and he will slowly but surely understand what kind of romantic personality you have and what you like. The only way this cannot work out is if he is allergic to water! You will also learn more about him and see his response to your romantic gestures. 

It is imperative that you do this at the start of the relationship because if you don’t, you could be setting yourself up for thorough disappointment.