In life I try to live as natural as natural can be. I don’t believe in painkillers, relaxing of the hair, I limit the bad food and eat clean and well, we all know my struggle with the fitness part but I’m getting there.

Anyway, as we all learn, there will always be that one person who feels they have earned the right to comment on your life and the choices you make such as how you decide to wear your hair.

Women should be able to do their hair any way they want without men or other women for that matter criticizing their choice. On any given day, you can go to twitter and find men complaining about weaves and natural hair and you wonder, these men get tricked by the easiest make up tricks, acrylics and a good weave and now they think they are experts on women’s hair and beauty? C’mon!

Natural hair for some is a sign of their individuality and part of their character while for some; it’s a simple dislike for chemicals in their hair. It’s really not about hating on the ones with relaxed hair or the ones with natural, but it’s about respecting everyone’s individual decision.

Personally, I am in the latter group of women who choose not to relax their hair simply because I do not like the idea of putting chemicals in my hair and breaking it down and honestly, I have witnessed lots of people’s hair suffer under the influence of these relaxers so I have never done it before and I don’t mind that at all.

Living with natural hair has been a struggle. I get grief  from the hairdressers who just tell you to relax or from the older women with the side-eye who always want to pat or fix your hair and advise you to texturise it. Just leave it alone because last I knew, your hair doesn’t look that much better. 

All I’m trying to say is as women and men we have to learn to respect women and their choices, I do not want to see men making jokes about smelly weaves and braids and making generalisations that all women with braids must have dirty hair or must use sulphur spray because the one women you hooked up with in university used it. Like just get over it, we do not comment on your hair or your clothes (Rwandan men and style…that’s a blog for another day).

So ladies, am I the only one tired of men and mean girls making comments on your hairstyle of the day?