Previously, I discussed making time for those you love in terms of your family and friends. In this case, I want to talk about your significant other. Lots of women imagine that when they spend too much time with their men, they are somehow being too submissive or not being independent enough.Personally, I have battled with that because when you admit to yourself that you enjoy spending most of your free time with your man, you are losing a part of yourself. Society dictates that spending more than a few days a week with your boyfriend or fiancé shows a lack of independence and you are bordering on "clingy” and if the man enjoys it then he’s controlling.I hate that people in relationships do what society says and take it to heart that all these silly "rules” are bond. But all relationships are different. I personally was best friends with my last boyfriend and enjoyed spending more time with him than most people. I was very busy with work and school so the little time I had, I would rather hang out with someone who wasn’t trying to go out and drink or complain about the men in their lives ( I still love you girls!). I just wanted to laze around, read a book or watch a movie while cuddled up to this handsome man.That said, when life is busy, don’t take your man for granted. He won’t always be there just to cuddle. You also have to put in the work to keep him. The other day some celebrity said something along the lines of "the way you got him is the way you will keep him” so if you were cooking up a storm in the kitchen at the start well you better take at least a night in the week to cook and after that, throw on the sexy lingerie you just bought because – well – he’s had a hard week too and that will make his day.So today was just me reminiscing on the good times when I was in a relationship and how to maintain the momentum. Please do not cancel date night to go out for drinks with the girls because date night on Friday probably means a lot more to him than you know. Tending to your man is not being submissive or not being independent. It is doing good things for the important man in your life.What do you ladies do for your men? Any tips you want to share?