During the short time I’ve spent with my girlfriend, it seems obvious that romance and passion are low on the list of reasons why she gets intimate with me. It almost seems like she does it to get it done with or because everyone else is doing it. Sex is a "mutually” satisfying act; however, I am not saying both of us have to be "equally” pleasured. If I’m aroused, why wouldn’t she want to try to "satiate” her hunger? It’s really not that not difficult. I know that whenever I am not "in the mood” and I’m approached, I "always” end up satisfied. Intimacy isn’t about taking; it’s about giving as well. One evening, I was really stressed and still had a load of work to do the next day, but being the loving man that I am, I just couldn’t miss out on seeing my girlfriend before sunset. On reaching there, she was aroused and in a stronger mood than I was. Being tired was not an option as some things don’t come every day. Had I said NO, there would be war for a week. If someone "holds sex over your head” or uses it as collateral, they have issues. If you stay with them, you have even bigger issues.