Children are great learning machines, but they learn more through experience than they do from their parents talking.•When disciplining don’t get angry.  Behave like a dispassionate policeman, simply hand out a reasonable penalty and move on.•When they are screaming and yelling at you, try silence.  Your silence makes them very uncomfortable, especially when they know you are angry.•Negotiate.  They have stuff you want (respect, homework, and rule following).  You have stuff that they want (privileges, car keys and money).  You could make a good deal here.•Never get physical.  •Be careful of who you let your teenager hang out with.  The stuff the bad kids do is usually more exciting than the stuff the good kids do.   Parenting.org